Re: negativity/squee-harshing - I am . . . not surprised. I mean, knowing that regardless of what happened in the ep, SOMEONE would be going on about how Amy Pond is as a character and a person a representation of all that has gone wrong with women and whoever wrote that ep should be shot is pretty much what soured me on having anything to do with Dr Who fandom.
Which is . . .you know, people are totally entitled to their dislike? Gods know anyone who loved Stirling's Emberverse would hate reading my journal, but I also wouldn't friend someone in that fandom without knowing that they, like me, were hate-loving it. Because someone who loves it does not deserve to have the great moments of heroism of, say, Meeting at Corvallis totally squee-harshed by the fact that I cannot take the male lead seriously without wanting to kill him, so I mock the shit out of him and his Best Hero Ever take.
If you're trying to build a community based on a mutual love for a thing that makes you happy, the person who's there out of some weird compulsion but mostly spends their time bitching about its flaws is kiiiiinda a killjoy. When that killjoyness is backed up by the whump of "and if you think differently, you are misogynist/racist/homophobic/whatever and you are bad and should feel bad", the joy-killing goes a little further.
(There are any number of things where I go "if you love X, I am not the person you want to discuss X with. I do not think you are a bad person for loving X, but I hate X for various reasons.")
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Which is . . .you know, people are totally entitled to their dislike? Gods know anyone who loved Stirling's Emberverse would hate reading my journal, but I also wouldn't friend someone in that fandom without knowing that they, like me, were hate-loving it. Because someone who loves it does not deserve to have the great moments of heroism of, say, Meeting at Corvallis totally squee-harshed by the fact that I cannot take the male lead seriously without wanting to kill him, so I mock the shit out of him and his Best Hero Ever take.
If you're trying to build a community based on a mutual love for a thing that makes you happy, the person who's there out of some weird compulsion but mostly spends their time bitching about its flaws is kiiiiinda a killjoy. When that killjoyness is backed up by the whump of "and if you think differently, you are misogynist/racist/homophobic/whatever and you are bad and should feel bad", the joy-killing goes a little further.
(There are any number of things where I go "if you love X, I am not the person you want to discuss X with. I do not think you are a bad person for loving X, but I hate X for various reasons.")