![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
The perils of online dating
Jan. 3rd, 2013 08:01 amKind of on a whim, I started an OK Cupid profile. For some reason, the first line of my profile -- "I am an opinionated left-wing feminist Catholic nerd" - puts people off. I just got this message:
That's a full on first line: opinionated left-wing feminist Catholic nerd.
Definitely not for me ma chérie.
So far I've resisted the urge to reply, "MISSION ACCOMPLISHED", or pointing out that he needs a comma after "me", or, indeed, replying at all.
The whole point of that first line is that in my experience with online dating, I tend to make contact with seemingly nice men, and we bond over our left-wing politics and feminism and nerdery, and then they start telling me how great Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens are. And then there's the awkward moment where I tell them I'm Catholic.
One tried to come back with, "But if you read Hitchens, you'll know it's Islam that's the real threat."
Then I pointed out that my stepmother is a Muslim.
Anyway, so far being upfront about my biases is filtering those guys out, but the only conversation it has attracted was from a guy whose profile entirely consisted of Dostoyevsky quotes, and all he wanted to talk about was the inherent paradox of being religious and feminist. Since I don't see a paradox, this was difficult.
That's a full on first line: opinionated left-wing feminist Catholic nerd.
Definitely not for me ma chérie.
So far I've resisted the urge to reply, "MISSION ACCOMPLISHED", or pointing out that he needs a comma after "me", or, indeed, replying at all.
The whole point of that first line is that in my experience with online dating, I tend to make contact with seemingly nice men, and we bond over our left-wing politics and feminism and nerdery, and then they start telling me how great Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens are. And then there's the awkward moment where I tell them I'm Catholic.
One tried to come back with, "But if you read Hitchens, you'll know it's Islam that's the real threat."
Then I pointed out that my stepmother is a Muslim.
Anyway, so far being upfront about my biases is filtering those guys out, but the only conversation it has attracted was from a guy whose profile entirely consisted of Dostoyevsky quotes, and all he wanted to talk about was the inherent paradox of being religious and feminist. Since I don't see a paradox, this was difficult.
