lizbee: (DW: The internet is SRS BZNS!)
Occasionally, I enjoy an anecdote that involves outrageous behaviour by some or all parties involved. Especially if that anecdote doesn't involve me, or anyone I know.

Captain Awkward is often a good source of this, but my other go-tos are:

Ask A Manager -- it totally offers legitimate workplace advice! And useful guidance on managing interpersonal issues in a professional environment! And occasionally "only in America" hilarity, like when the blogger freaks out because unions exist, or the post about whether or not it's illegal to carry a concealed weapon at work. (Spoilers! In some American states it is TOTALLY LEGAL! There was a whole thread of foreigners going, "Whut?")

Etiquette Hell -- the anti-Captain Awkward! Because where CA and her commenters, toxic and self-righteous as they often are, aren't ... well, they wouldn't judge you for organising your own birthday dinner. Or tell you off for using the term "slut shaming". What I'm saying is, there are trainwrecks EVERYWHERE here. (The commentariat is often better than the actual blogger, in that they go, "What the hell, that advice was totally wrong! And also makes a lot of assumptions about you that may not be applicable!")

But my current favourite trainreck is this post from Ask A Manager: My boss has romantic phone conversations that bother me because I'm single. OP is very sad about being single, and feels like the boss is being deliberately coupled to spite them! When complaints fail, OP resorts to passive-aggressive silent treatment and complaining about the boss to their mutual friends!

My boss sat me down for a tough conversation at the beginning of the following workweek, addressing the unprofesionalism of my email, the need for me to better understand my role in the organization, and that the concerns I had laid out about her managerial style were unacceptable to express. Regarding the romantic phone calls, she was defensive, claiming that they weren’t “recreational” in nature (which was a total lie). She said I should put on headphones if I didn’t want to hear her personal conversations.

IMAGINE MY SHOCK WHEN IT TURNED OUT THE OP WAS MALE. Not that women don't engage in outrageous behaviour at work (I totally recommend AAM's archives), but that mixture of self-righteousness, entitlement and passive aggression? Totally dudely. And, again, this isn't Captain Awkward, so no one in the comments has actually gone, "Uh, dude, you are acting like Walter White, and not in the cool drug lord way."

(Though there is this comment:

In one of AAM’s replies, she is implying that the OP is male, which, if true, makes me look at the issue a little differently.

In my past, I’ve encountered men who believe that a relationship is something that they “have,” like a nice car or a TV; that a relationship is something that they “deserve,” perhaps more than other people deserve one; or that’s “unfair” that they don’t have a relationship. It is not fun to be in a relationship with someone who thinks this way–they may not think of their female partner as a possession, but you can’t work with them to grow the relationship as an organic thing that exists between the two of you because they think of the relationship as a possession that you’re threatening. (Maybe there are women who think like this too, but I guess I wouldn’t know…)

I got a bit of this vibe from the way the OP takes offense at his(?) boss having a relationship when he doesn’t. Why does that matter? It seems nonsensical, like being upset that someone else is religious when you’re not. It’s not that the boss “has” something that the OP does not. It’s just a part of life that you can choose to pursue or not as your own taste and personality lead you.


IN CONCLUSION, I am going to be spending today reading this and rolling around laughing. And also writing wrong bad terrible fic that I am legit ashamed of, and also some blog posts and some of the million other things I'm meant to be doing. My point is, rolling around laughing is going to be a thing.

Bleurgh

Aug. 6th, 2010 10:36 am
lizbee: (Random: Ginger Spice)
For some reason, I spent several early-morning hours lying awake, wishing for sleep. Or death. Now I'm tired, my hands are stiff, and I have a headache.

In other news:

- weeding a book because it is hypothetically offensive to small-town American sensibilities, even though no patrons have actually complained, is not the act of a responsible librarian. Still, that's one blog to unsubscribe from.

- Emma Watson has cut her hair off. I'm torn; on the one hand, it is gorgeous, and highlights her best features. On the other hand, the world already has one Carey Mulligan. If Evanna Lynch ever steps foot near a hairdresser, I'm calling in a SWAT team.

- Yesterday, to celebrate the improvement in my hands, I did the dishes. Now they're back to where they were on Tuesday. The moral of the story is: NEVER DO THE CHORES. From now on, I will be cleaning NONE OF THE THINGS.

- I have five or six episodes of book 1 of Avatar: the Last Airbender left, and some YA novels I haven't read yet. My plans for today: set.
lizbee: (DW: Amy (fairy tale))
The excellent [profile] jaydeyn_sitari with River Song: from the perspective of an actual archaeologist.

[personal profile] mllesays: Amy Pond: the girl who saved herself.

[personal profile] arch: Martha Jones is a big damn hero.

[profile] bewarethespork has companion meta.

And that brings me to the end of my mini-linkspam, because I'm desperately tired, and want to watch some Trek and work on a quilt for a while. 
lizbee: (Random: Shenanigans)
This article is a bit of a headtwist: I know that bandwidth quotas are largely unknown in the US, but I hadn't thought of them as a THREAT TO DEMOCRACY.

(Of course, part of the issue is that much of Australia's telecommunications infrastructure is too old to handle high bandwidth, which goes totally unaddresed here.)
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The Murdoch press has an interview with Billie P, which is nice, and the Courier Fail accompanies it with a 45-part picspam gallery of Doctor Who photos.  My favourite is the one where they describe Jack as an Alternate Time Lord.  (There's also a Special Examination of Semi-Nudity In The Pop Industry, if that's your thing.  I wouldn't get too excited, though, the definition of "semi-nude" has been expanded to include the category previously known as "fully dressed".)

There's also a column by a features editor, arguing that what we really need is an old man playing the Doctor again, as opposed to someone female gay fruity poncy young.  (Seriously, the link to this column from the picture gallery was "Fans say no to poncy Doctor Who".)

Meanwhile, The Sun reports that Billie's next role will be playing a single mum on a council estate, who discovers that her estranged father is a millionaire.  I'm pretty sure they just got that from the 'recent stories' page on the Teaspoon.

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A few people asked about this: the new P. D. James is already out in England, and will have a November release in Australia and the US.  I got a reading copy from work, which I finished last night.  It was quite magnificent.  In some ways, I think James is wearing her Sayers-loving heart on her sleeve more than ever, but this isn't a bad thing.  Even if that was a terrible sentence.  Like Harriet, Emma's best friends are stout, practical lesbians.  I lolled.

Some random links, because I need to clear out my bookmarks:

Stitch: a free program for making cross stitch designs.  I haven't tried it out yet, but it's received good reviews.

[livejournal.com profile] cesario made this for me when I was feeling emo about the elitist thing.  I really don't know what she's trying to say...

It's Lovely!  I'll Take It!  I'm addicted to this blog, which features highly inappropriate photos from real estate listings.  [livejournal.com profile] piecesofalice and [livejournal.com profile] suburbannoir hate it, because I laugh really loudly whenever I browse it.

FlickFilosopher takes a closer look at Derek Jacobi's Hamlet.

Linkses!

Sep. 3rd, 2008 05:34 pm
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Fannish misogyny bingo.  Doesn't have nearly enough squares.

Re-used costumes in Tudor and Elizabethan movies.

Cat eats with fork and chopsticks.  Its owner rates it at seven out of ten for table manners, but I'd give it a four.

Sarah Palin is a world of *facepalm*.  "She asked the library how she could go about banning books" ...because some voters thought they had inappropriate language in them. "The librarian was aghast." That woman, Mary Ellen Baker, couldn't be reached for comment, but news reports from the time show that Palin had threatened to fire Baker for not giving "full support" to the mayor.

Speaking of Sam Neill (well, I would have eventually), I was at work this morning, and the conversation turned, as such things often do, to Sam Neill.  No, I don't know how that happened.  Anyway, we were discussing Sam Neill, and my co-worker said, "Oh yeah, he came into this store a couple of years back"

"OMGREALLYSAMNEILLILOVEHIMTELLMEEVERYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I said with disinterest.

"Yeah.  I don't remember what he bought."

Then I went out, and vacuumed the hallowed carpet on which he did tread, although not literally since the store has been refurbished and recarpeted since then.  The vacuuming was real, though.

I actually don't know what dismays me more, that season 3 of The Tudors won't air until 2009, or that it will feature Joss Stone as Anne of Cleves.

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